“…Be still, sad heart, and cease repining;
Behind the clouds is the sun still shining;
Thy fate is the common fate of all,
Into each life some rain must fall,
Some days must be dark and dreary.”
by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 1807-1882, written in 1845?
I had a few ideas I wanted to share, but they will have to wait. There are ups and downs in life, and right now I'm going through a small "down." Although it is a major change, it's natural and part of life. One of my little chickies is leaving the nest. I'm not sure if he's ready, but he wants to try. It's hard for a mom to let go and I don't feel like myself, so I won't be posting for a little while.
I have been so very blessed, that this seems like a giant glitch in the fabric of my life. I'm sure the sun will shine again soon, but for now "some rain must fall."
Patricia :o)
24 comments:
I have been where you are. I have 2 boys and the youngest one left home at 20 to be a father. His older brother didn't leave home till was 28. By that time I knew that is what he had to do...I had to give them wings to fly...that is what we are getting them ready for their whole lives. I know it makes you sad, especially if you were a stay at home mother like I was. I guarantee, each day gets easier. ~Hugs, Patti
I have been and your shoes and it isn't easy, but it does get easier. You will find yourself in a new relationship before you know it. And it will be a good one. Hang in there!
XO,
Jane
I am an empty nester too and I don't like it at all. I love having my girls at home with me, but I know that they can't be here forever. My oldest is married now and my youngest is in college. I just make the most of the time that I do have with them when they are here visiting. Love & blessings from NC!
My mother told me how it was so hard on her when I left. I'm so sorry and from her I get an idea of what you're feeling. I live in the 1604/281 area. Send me a message if you like and we can go grab a coffee!
-April
Hugs
Patricia I'm back...lol! I was tagged in a Holiday Tea Party and I tagged you in as well. I usually don't do these but this seems fun. Stop by my blog to read more about it if you want to join!
-April
I remember well when mine left..and I didn't think he was ready either. And his brother went with him in the end. I missed them..but they were only a couple of miles away. They HAD to grow up and quickly. I think they were 18 and 19 at the time. Children used to leave home much younger then. They are now 54 and 53 and doing quite well.
It will be fine. Not an easy time though. I remember it as if it were yesterday. The first ones are always the hardest. Thank God I had seven.. :)
Hugs,
Mona
Your job is to give him wings and teach him to fly on his own...that is what you've been doing all along. Now, he's ready...and although we might not feel like letting go....it's the best thing I think we can do for our children.
I have only small children (14 and 10) and have not hit this 'hard patch' in my life yet...but from the fresh perspective of one leaving home, the best thing you can do for a child is to let them live their lives...they will always hold a special place in their heart for you...and you will always be there!
my thoughts are with you during this time of change...
ciao bella
Carmelina
Beautiful sunshine comes after that rain! I'm sending may hugs your way.
I count one of my biggest blessings is that both of my daughters are out of the nest and on their own (even though one is married) and totally support themselves!! I adore them. I love to spend time with them.. but I vowed I would never be one of those parents with a 30 or 40 year old 'child' living off of me..so count your blessings that your little chick is mature enough to want to stand on his own 2 legs!
My two children have grown up and left the nest and it was hard seeing them leave. But one thing that helped was that my daughter ( the last to leave ) kept inviting us to her college for all the wonderful events there...concerts, parent's weekend, speakers, etc. as well as the times we went to visit and took her and her friends out for dinner. So plan some fun things to do with your children when either they come home for visits or you go to where THEY are! This can be an exciting time for you as well as you get involved in some new events that you can share together.sandy
It is wonderful that he thinks he is grown up enough to be able to fly the nest. Don't worry he will return if he finds it all too much.
My children have flown and returned several times. We have only these last few weeks been totally on our own.
Alison
I can't imagine how you feel, but my time will come!!!
As Alison says, they will be back :)
Hope all is going well for you! blessings,Kathleen
Hola mi amiga!
Pasé para abrazar-te. Un grandioso cariño.
Sol
What a tough time....you'll be in my thoughts and prayers!
I was thinking about you today and about how I enjoy visiting your blog. This time of change for you is challenging I am sure but my thoughts and prayers are with you. Our youngest was married this summer and we are "empty nesters" now. Some days seem strange. I hope you are well.
Oh dear, Sweetie! I fear you have fallen off the planet! I did that seven different times. It's ok..and I promise you it's a soft landing. :)
Hugs,
Mona
To my fellow Texas Blogging Gal, I hope your Christmas is filled with joy, peace, and love.
Merry Christmas!
Yoli from New Braunfels
Apron Senorita
Olá Patrícia, que tengas un excelente 2011, que todos tus sueños se hagan realidad.
Cariños
Sol
Patricia...I've been thinking about you and praying for you - wishing I'd see you post again.
Hoping you're doing well...
~Blessings,
Jan
Love your blog AND I'm your newest follower!!! I found you through the Texas Blogging Gals page and hope you will pop over and visit often!! :)
Thinking about you. Lotsa love all the way from here. I'm following you now.
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It is so hard for a mom to let go... I hope things are better now, since it is way past this post. But, just wanted you to know my heart goes out to moms... I know just what you mean when you say you just don't feel like yourself. Life does go on. Blessings to you, Patricia. Blessings to you...
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